I recently heard a wife trying to determine the average life expectancy of a thing. Her husband is currently cheating with a colleague. The wife recently discovered the incident and asked for an immediate stop. The husband insisted that he was very sorry and still loved his wife. However, he seems reluctant to let another woman leave. He told his wife that he just felt the need to look at the direction of the whole thing before making any lasting decisions.
Needless to say, this is not what the wife wants to hear. But in her heart, she felt that once the husband finally completed the matter, they could start the marriage and pick up the pieces. She is very aware that she is not prepared to let her marriage (or her husband) leave.
She asked me to some extent, "How long can you expect an average extramarital affair? I know the answer is different, because my aunt's husband has more than 20 years of sympathy and my best friend husband has a one-night stand. On average? Will things generally end soon? "
The person who raised this question is right. The timing of an event can of course vary depending on many factors, such as how long before someone else discovers, how the relationship progresses, and how each person feels about another person. However, I was able to find some information about the average life of the event, which I will discuss in the following article.
Unfortunately, statistics show that many things last a long time: I know that this wife is expecting me to tell her that the average event lasts less than a month. Of course, this is possible, but the statistics I found in several places show this. About 50% of the transactions lasted more than a month but less than a year. I realized that this is not so specific. With this statistic, you can view anywhere from 5 weeks to nearly 12 months and anywhere in between. So what this tells you is that this situation is not uncommon for several months.
Jump to the next applicable statistic I can find, and my research shows that 40% of transactions last for two years or more. So where is the last 10% coming from? Well, it lasts 10% a day or less (this is a one-night stand.) And the last 10% lasts more than a day but less than a month.
As you can reasonably see, these numbers indicate a lot of very short-term and long-term relationships. But it is clear that many things can last for months or even years. I think the time frame (at least in part) depends on factors such as how long it takes before the event is captured and monitored. Because if this relationship has a chance to be caught, the deceived spouse may be more difficult to deal with before deceiving the spouse to think that they have real feelings before they "fall in love" with another person.
Things to consider when you want your spouse to quickly end this. (Push your spouse to another person and pull the route between them:) This wife has an advantage even if she does not realize it. Shortly after it started, she learned about her husband. This has been going on for about three weeks. Now, the husband believes that he can have something "real" and lasting with other women. He is in the stage of obsession, he thinks that another woman has something special.
However, the wife still exists in her husband's life. His reactions and actions seem to indicate that he still has an investment in marriage. The wife's next step will be to try to get her husband to end the extramarital affairs, instead of trying to overthrow it, but to take her out of her.
The problem is that if another person is shown to be unrestricted or prohibited, then sometimes humanity needs something that is forbidden. Frankly, my husband is watching this person every day. This is another issue to consider.
My advice to her is to put myself in the best position. Although it is difficult, I complained to tell him that it is obvious that he has some struggles he needs to solve, but if he is emotionally or physically with other people, she cannot romantically interact with him. She can still emphasize that once a decision is made, she will be open to work. In this way, she did not alienate herself, nor did she let him portray her in a negative way (this would only push him to another woman.)
Suggested discussion: Of course, everyone You should consider your situation and the personality of your spouse. But in this case, I suggest that "It goes without saying that in order for our marriage to be effective, you need to end this matter and work with me in marriage. Now. This may not help you for me. A final pass or point out how wrong I feel you are. But when you make a decision, I am willing to talk about it. Before that, I have to focus on myself and what I need. "
I Knowing that this is a tough call, I know that some people will point out the risks of this strategy. However, time and time again, I saw that the wife issued the last pass, or asked him to end the extramarital affairs. Sometimes what happened was that he only wanted another woman to have more results, or he told his wife that he had terminated the extramarital affairs. Then the lie is because he really does not.
When the husband decides to end his extramarital affairs, it usually works better. I believe the above discussion or something similar will give you the best chance.